I won’t be doing a podcast or long blog entry today. I’m working on some projects I hope to share soon and also will be spending time with family this evening. I’ll definitely post more next week. Have a great week.

Episode 006 - Does going to church make sense?

Dr. Dave reflects on changes in church attendance. Does going to church make sense?

Episode 005 - Coping with Diverse Viewpoints - From Many, One

In Episode 005 - Coping with Diverse Viewpoints, Dr. Dave discusses the stress that can come from social media and news reports that differ from our own values. How do we respond to friends and family who hold different viewpoints?

004 - The Power of Remembrance

In Episode 004 of Dr. Dave’s Reflections, Dr. Dave discusses “The Power of Remembrance” and how remembrance can help move us on our journey of personal growth.

I’m happy for my daughter, Amanda Spriggs, who was engaged on 7/1/2020 to Will Reid. May your lives together be blessed and full of joy.

Dr. Dave's Reflections - Episode 0003 - Three ways we sabotage ourselves.

It’s Sunday, June 28th, 2020 and this is Episode three of Dr. Dave’s Reflections. Our topic today is three ways we sabotage ourselves.

Misquoting C.S. Lewis on Social Media

I have noticed a quote on social media that is being misattributed to C. S. Lewis. This false quote claims that Satan used fear of people getting sick to lead them to hell. There are a few variations of it, but they are all false.

C. S. Lewis never wrote this, nor did he write a book called “Letters of the Devil to his Nephew”. He wrote the Screwtape Letters in 1942, but this false quote does not appear in his book. It was written by a Facebook user in 2020.

I am not going to go on anyone’s social media timeline and tell them what to post or what to take down, but am providing this info on mine.

If you haven’t read the Screwtape Letters recently, please do. It is a great book.

Blakiston’s Fish Owl is the largest extant owl by mass. It lives in the Northern-most island of Japan, Hokkaido (and some parts of Russia). A large female can weigh 10 pounds and have a wingspan over 6 feet.

Video of Owl Eating Fish

It’s been a busy Monday. This week will go by fast if all the days are like today.

Dr. Dave's Reflections 0002 - Happy Father's Day 2020 - Time to Slow Down

In episode 2 of Dr. Dave’s reflecttions, Dr. Dave reflects on the need to slow down and be more mindful. Happy Father’s Day 2020.

Happy Father’s Day 2020. Thank you to all dads who love and invest in your children.

I’m thankful for a restful weekend to enjoy. I’m listening to the soundtrack from the film De-lovely. I love to listen to Cole Porter’s music and I liked the film.

Happy Juneteenth Day.

I have read most of Michael Connelly’s books. I think Amazon did a great job with the Bosh series.

Another day working from home. Busy day, but no commute leaves time to enjoy dinner and a movie with my wife (at home of course). We are watching season 5 of Bosh on Amazon.

I have been back in the office the past week after working from home for 3 months. It has been good to reconnect with coworkers. Tomorrow I go back to working from home again for a few days. I look forward to no commute. There are pros an cons with everything in life.

Not More Time, but More Depth

There aren’t enough hours in the day. Have you ever run out of time? I know I have. We try to work harder and take fewer breaks, but there are still missed opportunities. We try to work smarter and multitask. That may help a little, but it feels like we just can’t get everything done. Maybe the answer is not in working harder, faster, or smarter.

Brandon’s Story

The Crow is an action movie from the mid-1990s. Brandon Lee, son of Bruce Lee, starred in the Crow. Bruce Lee was a martial arts icon who tragically died at the young age of 32. Brandon died during a filming accident in 1993, soon after he gave the above interview. He was only 28.

The Inexhaustible Well

I enjoy action movies, but this blog post isn’t a film critique. It’s about the limits we face as humans, and ultimately limited time. The quote from the above video clip is from Paul Bowles’ book, The Sheltering Sky. Here is the quote. It is haunting.

“Because we don’t know when we will die, we get to think of life as an inexhaustible well. Yet everything happens only a certain number of times, and a very small number really. How many more times will you remember a certain afternoon of your childhood, an afternoon that is so deeply a part of your being that you can’t even conceive of your life without it? Perhaps four, five times more, perhaps not even that. How many more times will you watch the full moon rise? Perhaps 20. And yet it all seems limitless.”

Measuring Our Days

If we quantify the fullness of our lives, the number is not at all deep. It is quite shallow. Perhaps 10 dogs to enjoy as pets, or 70 trips to favorite vacation spot, or 15 more times to hear our parents tell a family story. We can’t add any greater number to these finite experiences.

Living Deeper Lives

How can we live more full lives? The solution is not to speed up and do more. The faster and harder we work, the more quickly these precious moments are lost. I am convinced that our lives become more full if we slow down and become more mindful of each moment, especially those moments that involve beautiful experiences and loved ones.

But, chores need to be completed, work responsibilities must be met, and I can’t ignore all the people in my life who demand my attention. What am I supposed to do differently? It would make things so much easier if there were a single solution that worked for all of us.

We do need to meet our responsibilities, and perhaps for some of us, we need to be more productive, while others of us need to do less. I don’t think the answer to this puzzle of limited time is in measuring how much we get done each day. Life is simply too brief and each of us leaves the world with an unfinished to do list.

We all need to be aware of the values that guide us. Family, faith, relationships, personal growth, professional success are examples of priorities which may rank very differently in the lives of individuals whose lifestyles may look similar to a third party. External measures of success, such as financial stability, quality of relationships, and career may appear to be identical.

A Question of Values and Priorities

The individual whose lifestyle reflects his or her values is likely to experience fulfillment. This is in contrast to an individual whose lifestyle is incongruent with his or her values and therefore likely to experience emptiness. It is up to each of us to order our values, priorities, and measures of success. More often than not, this will involve slowing down and being mindful of each precious experience in life.

None of us knows exactly how much time we have before death. Clarity of values and a lifestyle that is faithful to one’s values enables us to not focus so much on getting more done, but on being more fully present in each moment. When we are able to be more present in our relationships and mindful of the beauty around us, the precious time is no longer scarce. We can’t add to it, but we can experience it more deeply.

Questions to Ask Yourself

  • Are you aware of the values that guide you?
  • What are some of your top priorities?
  • In what ways are you slowing dow to be mindful of beauty around you?
  • In what ways are you fully present for your loved ones (and not distracted)?

Graduation was different during the epidemic. There was no speaker. Cars lined up and students received their diploma as their names were called.

I am proud of my daughter, Emily Spriggs. She graduated from high school today, 6-15-2020.

Because we don’t know when we will die, we get to think of life as an inexhaustible well. Yet everything happens only a certain number of times, and a very small number really.

– Paul Bowles

My wife and I exercised at the park and now we are having fajitas for dinner. We have a busy day tomorrow as our 18 year old daughter graduates from high school. It will be a drive thru graduation.

My wife and I just finished some chores. We are going to get some exercise at the park and enjoy the beautiful weather today.

DrDave’s Reflections 0001: Three Months Of Social Distancing, 2 Weeks Since Mr. Floyd’s Death

Hi, I’m DrDave. I’m a psychologist, husband, and dad. I have two adult daughters. In my first podcast, I share reflections on culture, spirituality, and personal growth. Thanks for tuning in!

How has 3 months of social distancing impacted you? How have recent events impacted your view of race and culture?

My dog, Lux, is enjoying a wonderful Sunday morning. Life is beautiful.

Hi, I’m Dave Spriggs. I am married and have two adult daughters. I enjoy chess, jazz, the outdoors, reading, and learning new things. I am a psychologist and see patients in North Carolina. I will give micro.blog a try and if I like it, plan to migrate my social media.